Monday, December 7, 2015

You Are in the Arena

Every once in a while I run across a YouTube video that truly speaks to me and changes my perspective and I think about it for days... sometimes longer... this was like that. 

My full time job is as a web developer and computer programmer, which is weird to a lot of people. Programmers aren't considered "creatives", but I am. I do a lot of crafts, including scrap booking, painting, embroidery, quilting, cross stitch, crochet, altered items, and I really will give just about anything a try. Each time, I hear my Dad cheering me on saying "You can do this!" He's been gone 6 months now and I miss him more each day...  anyway, I digress... 

Last week, I was at a point where I was getting good feedback on the Reindeer Games and I was thinking about another fun activity to put together for my readers and my husband was cheering my accomplishment of over 800 views in less than 24 hours... everything was GREAT... but, in my mind... I was struggling with the "Who do you think you are" gremlin. I didn't know that, really... at least not until I watched this. 

As a Troop Leader and the VSC (Service Unit Manager) I often struggle with the critics. I know they are there... I know who they are. I know what ever I do, it's never enough and it really makes me want to scream "Remember? VOLUNTEER!" I put in a TON of hours each year as a Volunteer for Girl Scouts. I find myself upset at times and stressed and negative comments cut me deep... especially the ones starting with "Don't take it personally"... ummm.. ok... 

No one told me when I started this journey as a Troop Leader that I was stepping into the arena. But, you are. Everything you do will be critiqued by the girls, the parents, the friends (and not so friendly people, unfortunately), and the organization. I'm still learning how to be where I am. I have friends who have been Leaders MUCH longer than me and they're still learning, too... but this helped me embrace the critic and hopefully, soon... work with them in a healthy way for me and them.

I ask you to watch this (Yes, I know it's 20 minutes) and think about the people you have that you know will criticize your efforts and I implore you to digest what she is saying and apply it to your life. 


I leave you with this... the quote she spoke in the video: 

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat." - Theodore Roosevelt

Fight On! The girls and YOU are worth it.

1 comment :

  1. Thank you so much for this! I needed it because I was looking for a way out, for now I have lost my Co-Leader because of her job and that may be the case for the next year. So my wonderful helping hand is missing and it has really put me in a funk. Even before her schedule change at times I felt my girl's nor the parent's appreciate or even care about all that I have to do to keep the troop going and all I do for the good of the troop or for the troop meetings let alone the events, trips, training, and Leader's meetings. Or I have heard well this troop seems to have it all together (like you could do a better job.) or this troop is doing this and that and why aren't we. I know I'm not the best troop Leader in our Service unit by a long shot but I'm doing my very best and I think it is pretty good. We do a lot as a troop! I have new girls in the troop and we now have a lot of arguing we had never had before so I'm trying to work on that with the aMaze Journey starting in Jan. Also they are now in middle school and most of them have started their monthly(so super moody)but I still love them all but would like to send them home until they are in the mood for Girl Scouts. I'm still and will always be learning and have told them all this before, I was not a Girl Scout growing up so I'm learning even if I have been doing this going on 4 years now. But some days I really want to put it all down and see if some else will pick it up and do a better job, go for it! I would love it if someone could or even would try. I'm going to stick it out this year and see if I can turn it around.

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Thanks!!