Tuesday, July 30, 2013

Be a Leader... show her She Is Worth It.

It's "that" time of year once again. The time of year when people start thinking about school starting up. In the Girl Scout world it means trying to find Leaders for girls who want to join Girl Scouts. This isn't as easy as one might think.

I don't want to be preachy or give a lecture unnecessarily. I just want you to stop and think for a moment... are you really TOO busy to spend time with your daughter, step-daughter, niece, cousin, friend's daughter, or any young girl that just wants to be a Girl Scout. I have friends who are Moms, Step-Moms (like me), Sisters, Cousins, Aunts, Childless women who are Leaders. They give their time, their heart, and their effort to changing the lives of many young girls. I've heard it a million times... ANYTHING you can provide is more than they would get otherwise. And that is the truth.

Girl Scouting building girls of courage, confidence, and character, who make the world a better place. That's the motto. That's the goal. How can you say you are too busy to help that movement? I understand you have a list of reasons. We are all busy. We all have reasons to stop us.

Will spending a couple hours a week planning and a couple hours a month with a group of eager girls make a difference? Ask the girl who is going to a home where no one is excited about her accomplishments, if it mattered when you told her she was amazing. Ask the young women that send their GS Leader a wedding invitation and birth announcements of their baby girl, if their Leader was important to them. Ask the young mother that has been counting down the days until her daughter starts Kindergarten so she can be her Troop Leader and follow in her Mom's footsteps if she liked  her Mom being a Leader. Ask the entering college Freshman who is sure she can conquer the world because she had years in a troop building her confidence in who she is if your time was worth it. 

Do all Girl Scouts turn out to be members of Congress? No. But, some do. Do all Girl Scouts enter into medical fields doing research to cure disease? No. But, some do. Do all Girl Scouts learn that they are great just the way they are and can do anything they put their mind to? Absolutely. At least I hope my troop of nine will.

Let me ask a question... (I have fell back on this many times in my life... and I should be a ton more. I can't remember where or who started this little synapse in my brain, but I am forever grateful they did. )
"What you are doing right now... 
The decision you are trying to make...
The things you are spending your time doing... 
Will it matter a month from now? 
Will it matter 6 months from now? 
How about a year? 
10 years? 
20 years?" 

Now, we can justify and categorize anything and say "YES! It will matter." But, will it really? Trust me. I am the best at placing significance on something that really doesn't matter. Does it matter that the coffee cup isn't in the dishwasher? "YES! It will attract ants and bugs and they will take over my house and attract rodents and they will eat my house and I'll be homeless and I'll be on the streets and catch pneumonia and die!!! All because of a dirty coffee cup!" See... Told you... I can jump there with the best of you. But, does it really matter? No. Just pick up the cup and put it in the dishwasher. It takes like 5 seconds. My favorite catch phrase inserted here... Seriously???

I can honestly say my decision to being a Girl Scout Leader WILL matter 20 years from now. My step-daughter will be 31. I hope and pray she has a family of her own and is happy with the life choices she has made. I know she will recognize the time and effort I spent making sure she went to every event she wanted to go to, realizing the time we spent together is priceless, and the opportunities she had because I decided she was worth it. She was worth the time. She was worth the energy. She was worth the heartache. She was worth the frustration of cookie sales season. She was worth dealing with parents that sometimes are the worst. She was worth every single second and dime I spent making sure she had a great Girl Scout experience. She is worth it!

It's kind of like the story of the starfish. As the boy throws the starfish into the sea, the old man says "You can't save them all. What difference does it make?" As the next one is tossed back in the boy replies "No, I can't. But, it made all the difference in the wold to that one." So, maybe we don't save them all and maybe they don't all become world leaders... but if one does and the only thing standing in her way was an adult that wouldn't step up... how do you decide it's okay to stay silent?

Show her she is worth it. 
You can talk until you are blue in the face and it won't have near the impact of your actions. 
She is worth it. 
No matter how or if you are related. 
The girls are worth it. 


  1. Thank you so much for this great post. This put into words one of the reasons why I decided to split from my existing troop and start a new troop.

  2. Thank you so much for all the great ideas you supply on this blog. I love them!

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  3. Thank you for this post. It is just what I needed to hear today!



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