Monday, October 26, 2015

#StandByHer Week - Closing the gap

I was fortunate enough to have a Mom who I admire for her independence, creativity, and strong will. She taught me from an early age to be my own person, chase my dreams, and to just try it. She never once put limits on me "because I was a girl". 

My Mom owned her own business and baked the most beautiful cakes as long as I can remember. I don't think I ever realized as a young girl what a big deal it was that my Mom was a small business owner. It's a big deal! Not only did she own a business, but she was able to be my Mom and be with me each day. From an early age, Mom taught me how to sew, embroider, decorate cakes, and so much more. She also encouraged me to read and learn and find my own interests. All those skills have made me who I am today. It instilled the value that I can do anything I put my mind to. It helped my reasoning, methodical thought process, creativity, and perseverance to see the project through completion. Those skills are what it takes to be a successful woman in today's world. 

I love the video above saying to Stand By Her. Help her close the gap and gain equality. My only hesitation is that I hope we don't drive our young ladies to a path they don't choose for themselves. The definition of success is not measured by salary or title. Success doesn't mean you have an office with a view or are partner in a prestigious firm. Success is defined by chasing any dream you put your mind to and achieving it. Success does not come without failure. You have to work hard. Try over and over and over again. Have a level of commitment that can't be compromised by passing winds of change. 

As a woman in 2015 who has a career and family and volunteerism is a huge part of my life, I would hate to think young women feel they have to choose that path to be successful. Stay at home mom's are needed. I know... not the women's lib message, huh? To me, women's liberation means I have a choice. Do I want to climb the corporate ladder or do I want to mold tomorrow's leaders as my main focus? Or will I find balance between the two? 
Encourage your young ladies to define what success is to them... don't let the statistics discourage them from chasing their dream. Stand By Her as she chooses what is the best fit for her. Uplift her as she struggles between the roles. Hug her tight when she wonders if the choices she has made are the right ones. Be there. Be her friend. Be her confidante. Stand By Her. 


  1. I've read many books lately that describe how the new feminism is about having all of the choices, not having it all! I love your message - encourage our daughters that the world of choices is open to them, encourage them when they make choices, and stand by them even if they change their choices. Thank you for your voice on this blog - it is such an encouragement to me as a Mom and as a Girl Scout volunteer!

    1. Thank you so much for your kind words. I really do appreciate it. I knew it probably wouldn't be a post that everyone would agree with, but it's one that I feel from the bottom of my heart. Having it all isn't defined by a dollar sign. It's more important to find your true calling and share it with the world.



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